In the asexosphere, we regularly find new coins and new terms to express ourselves. Some of these have gained a fair bit of currency. Others…not so much.
In that spirit, I would propose some of my own terms. I’ve already gotten a pretty good head start with a couple of creations that I don’t expect to ever catch on.
Sexualnormativity. An ace equivalent of heteronormativity. No one has picked up on it online, though others have used variants including “sex-normative” and “sex-normativity,” no thanks to my clunky coin.
Asexually repressed. The delusion of being interested in sex when one is not. As it turns out, I wasn't the first person to use this one, but I didn't know it at the time.
In addition to the terms I’ve already coined, I’ve been hard at work making up other ones that are equally doomed to oblivion but that would be awesome if they were used.
Other groups have terms of derision for political opponents. For example, LGBT people have “homophobe” and “transphobe.” Personally, I’m not really a big fan of “homophobe” for reasons not worth getting into here except to say that I really don’t want to see “aphobe,” or “asexophobe” to gain common usage. Besides, one suggests you’re afraid of nothin’ and the other sounds means of making music. But we need something, so here’s my epithet of choice: asexohater. It even comes with an verbal cognate for free.
Ace: I’m asexual. That means I’m not interested in sex.
Asexohater: You’re not asexual. You just haven’t met the right person yet.
Ace: Don’t you be asexohatin’ on me.
Another term that I find my vocabulary lacks is a word to express time spent in the reading and production of asexual discourse or doing some kind of asexual activism, education, etc. I really want a verb for this, but the best I can come up with is “asexize,” as in “I’ve been so busy lately, I haven’t really gotten to do much asexizing in a while.” However, I’m not particularly sold on this: it sounds way too much like “excise.”
And speaking of trying to excise someone's sexual orientation, I’ve got a great word for trying to “cure” someone’s asexuality: asexorcism.
Ace 1: I mean that shrink like totally tried to perform an asexorcism on me.
Ace 2: Don't let it get to you. He's probably just asexually repressed.